Tan Dawn Wei wrote about the "fake-cake wedding(s)" she had attended. It was quite a dismaying fact to know that couples waste their finances on styrofoam cakes accompanied with slits for the knives to fit into.
It is true too, that people don't really admire the numerous gowns worn by the bride at the dinner and even if they do, it doesn't usually last for beyond a second glance. This also costs the bride her dinner, as she doesn't get to enjoy the dishes like the rest of them. Even the groom has that opportunity! One gown should be it and worn till the end of the dinner. At the most, intermittent touch-ups of her makeup can be done.
I've attended a few weddings that have seared themselves in my mind. I remember my friend who let her long hair loose in her wedding gown. That was a refreshingly simple alternative to hairstyles that require the brides to do their hair up and thus cause unnecessary weight on their heads through the accessories. Another friend of mine had her makeup done too excessively, such that she appeared ghastly.
I am repulsed by wedding dinners that include sabotage games organized by the couple's friends for the couple. They should be kept to personal entertainment, after everything has ended. Not everyone is into these and they can get too kinky for my liking.
The arrangement of guests at the various tables can be an issue for contentment as well. Putting incompatible people together can make the event very boring for them.
The food is yet another issue. I know of a wedding dinner which was different in this aspect but guests did not feel filled up. They were offered spa cuisine, which was served at very long intervals in between. This resulted in the guests rushing to gobble up the desserts served buffet-style, of which some were more filling than the earlier courses.
Eve-Wee-Ang wrote in to reply to Dawn Wei's article, sharing on her own wedding celebrations. Her celebrations seemed spontaneous and unrestricted. I wonder if other brides can be as fortunate as she was, considering the fact that cultural heritage is an essential factor in our society. She could wake up at 1pm for her ceremony.
Her dinner is the type of ideal yearned for, where there were speeches from the heart and a live band. It doesn't seem too rowdy. It is simple and yet unforgettable.
Condoms were given to guests at a wedding. How can they be appropriate as favours? What is the couple trying to advocate? Yes, safe sex but that may lead to promiscuity for the singles and adultery for the married people. It may be in the name of fun but that's not a socially good enough reason.
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